How to Overcome the Biggest Lie you were ever Told

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What is the Biggest lie ever told to and about people (and possibly you)? care to take a guess? Well let me ask you:

Has anyone ever told you that you could not be successful? Has anyone ever told you that you would not amount to anything, or that it is pointless to pursue your dreams?

The way I heard it said was: There is no reason to make plans for yourself, because we make plans and God laughs at us.

All those statements could not be further from the truth. The people who said those things to you have a fixed mindset. They are incapable of perceiving life from a place of possibility and opportunity.

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Maybe, you are the one who has been lying to yourself and telling yourself things like: “I’m not good enough,” “my life is useless,” or “I cannot get better.” A lie is something that is not rooted in truth. If you have been allowing yourself to be influenced by this type of messaging, then you have been lied to, because it is simply not true.

This is something that we can all experience at some point in our lives. It was not until I became an adult that I was able to understand that the things that other people told me to believe about myself were invalid.

Who is anyone to tell you that you are a mistake, can only mess up, and are not special? For 20 years of my life I had to live with this type of negative messaging constantly swirling around me; and I thank God I had enough resolve to combat those falsehoods.

Here is the truth

The truth is, You are special, you have purpose, you are fearfully and wonderfully made. Your life has meaning, you are on this earth to accomplish great things, and you can do more than you can even imagine.

The human being is powerful. The problem is people sometimes harness their power in the wrong way. The number one way we wield our power is through our words.

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What you say to yourself and what you allow others to impart into you, can drastically influence the trajectory of your life.

I want to help you see that the capacity for your life is bigger than your circumstance. People will say things for the sole purpose of hindering your progress. You must be determined enough to know, who you are is greater than what others say you are.

Do not limit your life to the box that some other person put you in.

They do not have your dreams, they do not have your vision, they do not have your intentionality. Do not allow people with nothing to contribute to your life to influence it.

The best way to overcome the lies of inadequacy is to stop telling them to yourself and stop allowing others to tell them to you. Seems like a pretty straight forward concept, right? That is because it is.

Start seeing yourself the way in which you want to be seen, not the way other people see you.

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This level of thinking comes from having confidence in yourself. Confidence meaning “with fidelity.”  You have to develop an unwavering conviction about who you are.

Are you loyal to yourself?

Consider a good best friend. A close friend supports you in your endeavors. As this relates to having confidence, do you support you? Are you your own best friend?

When you have value yourself, you won’t lie to yourself, nor will you allow others to lie to you.

How do we value ourselves?

Create a plan. This is about life management. What does your lifestyle reflect about you. If you are someone who just goes through the motions of life, then that is all you will ever be.

However, if you are someone who believes life is about taking the bull by the horns so to speak, then that is what will reverberate through you.

A dream without a plan is just a wish. Stop wishing for stuff and start planning. We abdicate our responsibility as a human being when we decide to not do anything with our lives.

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Humans are creators. That is our number one superpower: we create. If as a creator you say to yourself, ‘I cannot do anything with my life’, then you are literally creating an unproductive life for yourself.

The difference between the person who lives a fulfilled life, and the one that does not, is the one who does, planned for it.

If you do not stand for anything, you will fall for everything.

What is your life about?

Do not believe the lie that your only purpose is to be purposeless. If that was the case, there would be no point in living. Valuing yourself means living with passion and living on purpose. It is about pursuing your compelling future no matter what.

Stop letting others rob you with good intentions. Actions speak louder than words; If someone cannot add immense value to you, they should not be the ones in the war room of your life, helping you plan out your decisions. The only place they can direct you to is hell.

Anyone who says do not plan your life, you will never amount to anything, or that you were a mistake, is lying to you. You overcome that lie by being confident and valuing yourself. Become confident in your self-worth by creating a life that is planned and is in alignment with who you are.

You do not have to conform to the ways of lifeless people; You can transform yourself by changing the way you think. Think better, do better, become better. That can be the life you live if you want it to be.

You have so much potential. But potential means nothing if it is not applied. Use what you have and make the most of it.

Life does not have to only happen to you; in fact, if you position yourself correctly through proper planning; life can happen for you.

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