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To get to your success you must overcome your fears. Fear is an intimidation tactic. The thing you need to do most is usually the thing that also scares you the most. You can be afraid for a whole host of reasons. There are things that have been and are daunting to me in life. No one has it all figured out and being afraid sometimes is part of that figuring-it-out process. The important thing to remember is that you can’t allow yourself to become immobilized by fear.

Success is most salient on the other side of your accomplishments. Your accomplishments are often gate kept by your fears. The materialization of your full potential is in your ability to conquer your fears. You may experience fear, but you don’t have to succumb to it. You can’t be afraid to press forward. If you roll over, shrink back, and throw your hands up in the face of fear, you will struggle with becoming the fullness of who you really are.

Who you really are is scary. You’ve never seen yourself at peak potential or in a perpetual transcended state. You may not know what it’s like to flow naturally in life [in that way]. The highest form of you is unknown and the unknown is generally scary. Yet and still, despite all odds and adversity, if you want the desires of your heart and to have and experience success, you’re going to have to overcome your fears.

The key to overcoming your fears is action. You must face your fears head on. Fear is a feeling, a state of being, and a natural survival response. Your physiology will tell you to be afraid of something because it’s perceiving that something as life threatening, even if it isn’t. The feeling of fear is one of unpleasantness. If you find yourself feeling fear, contemplate what exactly are you afraid of. That is where you sense the danger. Sometimes fear can be nuanced where one aspect of something sits fine with you while another aspect doesn’t. For example, you may like and be unafraid of traveling, but are afraid of the thought of flying on a plane. That fear could stop you from experiencing the fullness of life you are meant to.

Your desires wouldn’t be in you if they weren’t meant to be fulfilled through you. Everything in your life probably doesn’t scare you (if it does that may be something you want to seek professional help over) what’s crucial is having a healthy combative spirit and demeanor towards things that may be blocking you from your compelling future. To face a fear head on you need to know what the fear is and have insight on the value of what’s waiting on the other side of your display of tenacity.

When you are in the presence of something that makes you afraid you have a choice. physiologically your body goes into fight or flight mode. Your fight or flight response is your body’s built-in safety mechanism. People tend to act on their fight or flight response emotionally and based on what feels comfortable or right to them in that moment. There is a third option in your fight or flight response as well, and that’s freeze. In the presence of fear, you could also tense up and be unable to make a decision.

To overcome your fears, you must learn to make the correct objective decision in the presence of them. When you are afraid sometimes the correct thing to do is fight, sometimes it’s to take flight, and sometimes it’s to freeze. Take a mental step back from what you are afraid of and assess the situation. Are you exposed to anything that will literally take your life? Or would you just die from embarrassment? Then is the risk of dying greater than the reward you’d get if you rose to the occasion of your fears? In relation to your fears, you need to develop some resolve. Fear isn’t going anywhere, but it can keep you from going somewhere. Cultivate a mindset of seeing fear as a worthy opponent and something you can demonstrate your resolve over.

Another thing that helps with overcoming your fears is exposure. If you are afraid of something unavoidable, then you have to keep exposing yourself to that thing until you become unafraid and experience success from and over that fear. Somethings don’t go away you just have to face them. Exposure cultivates experience and experience can make things easier. This can be easier said than done though, because sometimes the thing that you are afraid of and need to overcome, has also damaged you psychologically and you may have trauma from it. If your fear is part of an entanglement, then you may need additional help.

You may also feel as though, however, that you don’t want to burden other people with your woes. Getting better in relation to your fears can be an arduous task. Fear can be a bully. When you don’t have an intercessor around and you’re squared up with your opponent you’re going to have to fight (or run the risk of living just to have to fight the same opponent another day). If trauma or one of fear’s other goons tries to jump in the fight, then fight dirty. Hit below the proverbial belt. Your freedom from fear is crucial. If you don’t materialize it, then it won’t materialize. There is no pretty or nice way to stop being afraid of something. To get to the other side you must go through. But if you can get through, you’ll experience the success waiting for you.

Your destiny is on the other side of your fear. The Bible says that God did not give you a spirit of fear but of power, love, and self-discipline. You have what you need to be successful. Fear can be a multifaceted obstacle, but if you are afraid of something, that is probably the direction you need to go in.

Use judgement, don’t put yourself in literal life-threatening situations; but also, fight what you can fight when it makes sense to fight. And if a literal life-threatening situation is inhibiting you from experiencing success, don’t be afraid to die. The you who tries to be successful and happy will always be more satisfied than the you who doesn’t. Action and exposure beats fear. If your fears seem insurmountable, go to extreme measures. Seek guidance. Prioritize freedom from your fears and watch your life take off and you experience new levels of success.

Originally published May 14, 2024.

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