3 Ways to Improve your Self-esteem

Ah, the ever-elusive self-esteem. Everyone talks about it, but what is it exactly? You cannot seem to pinpoint it on a map, yet everyone is out to get it. It is like a real life One Piece that we are all pursuing, so that we can be Kings and Queens in our own lives. But why is this commodity in self-esteem so valuable?

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One Piece is an anime about a young man – Luffy, who sets off on a journey to find the titular treasure and proclaim himself the King of the Pirates.

Self-esteem is self-respect; and what is the value in self-respect? Well, if you do not respect you, how can you expect others to respect you? having respect means having a deep adoration and holding someone or something in high regard. When people talk about having a low self-esteem, they are essentially saying that they do not hold themselves in high regard.

The question for that person then becomes: “who told you that you are less than?”. The biggest lie that you were ever told was that you are purposeless. At some point in our lives we all come across that person or persons who’s only mission in life is to sow a bad seed in us.

This person will tell you that you cannot accomplish something, or they will undermine your talents, or they might even plot against you. depending on when you come across these bad actors in your life (and if you have not yet, you will) their influence can have a profoundly negative impact.

As these bad seeds take root in your mind, you begin to perpetuate those lies that you were told. Then all of a sudden, your confirmation bias kicks in and now your environment begins to reverberate those negative sentiments. This is where depression can start to settle in because now not only do you have an unfavorable thought about yourself floating in your head; but also, everything around you is saying that renegade thought is true.

I have been through this cycle several times, and it is debilitating. Who wants to push forward when they feel as though they are constantly fighting against themselves?… Self-esteem is the solution to this predicament. The only thing holding you back from the life you want to live is your belief in whether or not you are worthy of living it.

How do we make sure that renegade thoughts do not ruin our lives? And how do we hold ourselves in high regard so that we can be who we are no matter where we are?

Here are 3 ways to improve your self-esteem:

1. Confidence

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Having confidence in yourself means being loyal to yourself. Con-fidence meaning with fidelity; or being in alignment with your convictions.  Confidence comes from living a life that reflects who you believe you are. This is an important part of a high self-esteem because when you are confident in who you are and what you do, you will put value on yourself which will cause you to have respect for yourself.

It takes individuality to be confident. Confidence is a muscle: we must use it for it to get stronger. Our current society teaches us to be clones and cogs in a machine. That actually strips us of our individuality which in turn, forces us to live a life counter to who we are which ultimately, has a negative impact on our confidence.

 The best thing I ever did for my confidence is become a content creator. I lived my life for a long time under the oppression of being someone I was not. That life looks like having a low morale, being timid in social situations, being a follower as opposed to a leader, and feeling under achieved.

There were many nights when I would talk to God and ask: “is this really all that life has to offer?”. I was asking those questions because I was living a life that did not reflect who I was. I thought being politically correct, working my way up the corporate ladder, and collecting business cards was what my life was going to be. And while it was not all bad it was also unfulfilling.

When I started blogging, my confidence skyrocketed because I felt as though I was finally doing something that I was meant to do.  Does your life satisfy your spirit self? We are all spiritual beings having a physical experience. Does your life echo what is in your spirit?

When it does you put yourself in alignment with your purpose. And when you are doing what you were created to do, you strengthen your confidence because you are tapping into your reservoir of individualism. It is impossible to be confident in who you are when you are trying to be like everybody else.  Chameleons change their colors to hide themselves, not to be themselves.

2. Self-improvement

The second way to improve your self-esteem is to improve yourself. What steps are you taking daily to become a better person? This is key with self-esteem because growing people are learning people; and part of having a high self-esteem is continually growing and getting better.

The more you do something, the better you get at it, and the higher you hold yourself in regard because you have grown in that area. This is the most challenging part of improving your self-esteem because it requires consistent action.

People will allow themselves to burnout before they see the results of the work they put into something. This kills self-esteem because you are literally perpetuating a notion of failure in your life. How can you hold someone in high regard who never commits to anything?

Self-improvement is about moving forward in your life; whatever that looks like. We often expect or look for big opportunities to arrive before we decide to act. The truth is, however, that those big opportunities are not common, and if you are not in a position to capitalize on them you will miss out.

Getting better is a daily activity not a one-off opportunity. Growing daily can be capitalized on by reading for 30 minutes a day or sparking a conversation with someone different than you. Getting a coach/mentor to challenge you and help you reach your goals or engaging with your creativity and trying something new.

3. Connect with the Right People

This tip is essential. Having the right people in your life is so important for your self-esteem because just like there are those with malicious intent towards you, there are those out there who want to see you grow and prosper and be all that you were made to be.

These people speak life into you and want to see you succeed. It is so valuable to get around people who have a capacity for you. I know what it is like to feel unsupported; it feels as though you are walking up a steep hill and there are people at the top chucking boulders down at you.

You need people who will be by your side and not just along for the ride. When you are in this type of space and community, everyone flourishes because everyone is adding value to one another.

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We have all heard the saying: “show me your friends and I will show you your future”. Get around people who are excelling at what you want to be doing. Find people who live out their passion and go on a journey with them. A sure-fire way to develop your self-esteem is to be around people who have, and help others who want to.

Self-esteem is about having self-respect, which is about holding yourself in high regard. People pursue it because it allows them to be themselves regardless of where they are in life. Having a high self-esteem is about having a fidelity with yourself, improving your skills, and connecting with the right people.

When these things are done in tandem you begin to build up your resolve. Your resolve is what enables you to stand up in the face of adversity. Our self-esteem gets impacted when we allow ourselves to believe things about ourselves that are not true.

You cannot believe in something you do not believe in. This is called cognitive dissonance, when two conflicting thoughts take up residence in our minds. As this relates to improved self-esteem, your voice as your own individual has to be louder than the voice of others. That is how you improve your self-esteem; by being less of what others think you are, and more of who you know you are.

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Is going Pescatarian right for you?

I have been pescatarian now for two years and it has been phenomenal for my health. I have and keep high energy levels, I do not deal with some of the immediate health concerns associated with eating your traditional meats, and it has had a positive impact on my weight and my ability to build and maintain muscle.

Being pescatarian means your primary source of protein is fish. So no chicken, turkey, beef, pork, or any other kind of animal that walks on land. I know… At first it sounded crazy to me too. However, as you will soon see, there are benefits to this type of lifestyle that can have lasting results.

Why I became a Pescatarian

Two years ago, I was on vacation in Thailand with an upset stomach (…that is an interesting way to start a story). From the moment I was out of the United States my stomach for whatever reason was very unsettled.

Prior to this experience, I was the type of guy who ate whatever was put in front of him. I did not discriminate; and I grew up knowing how to cook, so I would make my favorite foods all of the time. Not to say I was unhealthy, but I definitely was not the most health conscious.

I did notice however that I was constantly having heartburn and other types of bodily discomfort leading up to my trip. This was concerning to me, because I honestly thought why is a young man in his 20s having constant agida?… Come to find out, in your 20s is when health decline starts.

Once I realized my health was diminishing, I was desperate for a solution. My bodily health is so important; health period to me is so important.

I could not imagine myself dealing with meat sweats and discomfort from the food I ate for the next 60+ years. So, I was already in a position to receive something new prior to going on my vacation.

My trip to Thailand was 10 days, and I literally could not eat for five of them. My stomach was incapacitated. I was concerned because this was not common for me, and it definitely was not ideal while on the other side of the world.

By halfway through the trip once I was able to eat something of substance, I decided to only eat fish for the rest of the vacation. My logic was: I am just now feeling somewhat better and I do not feel like feeling worse again.

So I committed to only eating fish as my primary protein for the remainder of my trip; And on my plane back to America I thought, how about I try to keep this going. I immediately found value in the way being pescatarian made me feel and I wanted to keep feeling that way.

Pros and Cons of being a Pescatarian

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Some of the pros of being a pescatarian include increased heart health, reduced risk of cancer, and reduced risk for diabetes and inflammation.

Eating fish increases your omega-3 fatty acid intake which is essential for a healthy heart. People who eat fish have lower blood pressure, a lower risk of abnormal heart rhythms, and fewer fatal heart attacks. Being a pescatarian can also combat your chances of getting colon or rectum cancer.

The cons of being a pescatarian is increased mercury levels, and it has a negative impact on the environment.  

Fish concentrate mercury in their bodies.  Mercury is a toxic compound however the type of mercury found in fish, does not pose health risks to humans. That being said, women who are nursing or pregnant should avoid certain type of fish high in mercury.

Fish farming is also not the most environmentally friendly practice. Fish farming is when fish are raised in tanks or enclosures to be mass produced and sold. Some of the draw backs to this practice is that it damages the ecology of bodies of water, introduces invasive species, and can cause disease in the fish.

Another con of being pescatarian is that it can be pricey. Fish is a low supply high demand food product with a relatively short shelf life. It is also a more luxurious protein due to its health benefits over other types of meat.

Is going Pescatarian right for you?

I say, try it. If you enjoy fish, like being healthy, and are in need of a dietary change; becoming pescatarian might be right for you.

The transition is not as ominous as one might think. At first I thought I would miss chicken and steak (I loved a good piece of steak), but I actually acclimated rather quickly to the point where I was able to cut out all other protein within a month.

The other thing that was attractive to me about becoming a pescatarian is that I did not have to change my diet at all really. Aside from fish, the rest of my diet remained the same. The biggest challenge I still sometimes have in this area is going to events or places where fish is not on the menu – in which case I opt for a vegetarian option.

It has also done wonders for my physical health. Because fish is high in protein, my body has had an easier time sustaining muscle mass.

Now I know what you really want to know about… the fish breath. Honestly just brush your teeth and use mouth wash. It is not as bad as you might think. I go about my normal day of eating with minimal concern about bad breath.

Overall, going pescatarian has changed my life for the better, and it can change yours too. One more hack I have discovered since being pescatarian is that I avoid fried foods like the plague. No, there is nothing like a good fried fish sandwich, and yes, I do have a cheat day, but in general my body is a fried food free zone (try saying that five times fast).

Here is a challenge: Go pescatarian for 30 days. If you are in a position where you need to and are ready to make a change for the better, commit a month to your health. Test the waters, kick the tires, and decide if it is right for you.

Another concern I originally had about going pescatarian is that I thought I would not have enough variety in my food options. And while my diet does skew towards salmon as a preferred fish choice, there is enough of a variety of fish that I am never bored come mealtime.

What are your thoughts about the pescatarian diet? Would you be willing to try it why or why not?

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How to Overcome the Biggest Lie you were ever Told

What is the Biggest lie ever told to and about people (and possibly you)? care to take a guess? Well let me ask you:

Has anyone ever told you that you could not be successful? Has anyone ever told you that you would not amount to anything, or that it is pointless to pursue your dreams?

The way I heard it said was: There is no reason to make plans for yourself, because we make plans and God laughs at us.

All those statements could not be further from the truth. The people who said those things to you have a fixed mindset. They are incapable of perceiving life from a place of possibility and opportunity.

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Maybe, you are the one who has been lying to yourself and telling yourself things like: ‘I’m not good enough’, ‘my life is useless’, or ‘I cannot get better’. A lie is something that is not rooted in truth. If you have been allowing yourself to be influenced by this type of messaging, then you have been lied to, because it is simply not true.

This is something that we can all experience at some point in our lives. It was not until I became an adult that I was able to understand that the things that other people told me to believe about myself were invalid.

Who is anyone to tell you that you are a mistake, can only mess up, and are not special? For 20 years of my life I had to live with this type of negative messaging constantly swirling around me; and I thank God I had enough resolve to combat those falsehoods.

Here is the truth

The truth is, You are special, you have purpose, you are fearfully and wonderfully made. Your life has meaning, you are on this earth to accomplish great things, and you can do more than you can even imagine.

The human being is powerful. The problem is people sometimes harness their power in the wrong way. The number one way we wield our power is through our words.

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What you say to yourself and what you allow others to impart into you, can drastically influence the trajectory of your life.

I want to help you see that the capacity for your life is bigger than your circumstance. People will say things for the sole purpose of hindering your progress. You must be determined enough to know, who you are is greater than what others say you are.

Do not limit your life to the box that some other person put you in.

They do not have your dreams, they do not have your vision, they do not have your intentionality. Do not allow people with nothing to contribute to your life to influence it.

The best way to overcome the lies of inadequacy is to stop telling them to yourself and stop allowing others to tell them to you. Seems like a pretty straight forward concept, right? That is because it is.

Start seeing yourself the way in which you want to be seen, not the way other people see you.

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This level of thinking comes from having confidence in yourself. Confidence meaning ‘with fidelity’.  You have to develop an unwavering conviction about who you are.

Are you loyal to yourself?

Consider a good best friend. A close friend supports you in your endeavors. As this relates to having confidence, do you support you? Are you your own best friend?

When you have value yourself, you won’t lie to yourself, nor will you allow others to lie to you.

How do we value ourselves?

Create a plan. This is about life management. What does your lifestyle reflect about you. If you are someone who just goes through the motions of life, then that is all you will ever be.

However, if you are someone who believes life is about taking the bull by the horns so to speak, then that is what will reverberate through you.

A dream without a plan is just a wish. Stop wishing for stuff and start planning. We abdicate our responsibility as a human being when we decide to not do anything with our lives.

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Humans are creators. That is our number one superpower: we create. If as a creator you say to yourself, ‘I cannot do anything with my life’, then you are literally creating an unproductive life for yourself.

The difference between the person who lives a fulfilled life, and the one that does not, is the one who does, planned for it.

If you do not stand for anything, you will fall for everything.

What is your life about?

Do not believe the lie that your only purpose is to be purposeless. If that was the case, there would be no point in living. Valuing yourself means living with passion and living on purpose. It is about pursuing your compelling future no matter what.

Stop letting others rob you with good intentions. Actions speak louder than words; If someone cannot add immense value to you, they should not be the ones in the war room of your life, helping you plan out your decisions. The only place they can direct you to is hell.

Anyone who says do not plan your life, you will never amount to anything, or that you were a mistake, is lying to you. You overcome that lie by being confident and valuing yourself. Become confident in your self-worth by creating a life that is planned and is in alignment with who you are.

You do not have to conform to the ways of lifeless people; You can transform yourself by changing the way you think. Think better, do better, become better. That can be the life you live if you want it to be.

You have so much potential. But potential means nothing if it is not applied. Use what you have and make the most of it.

Life does not have to only happen to you; in fact, if you position yourself correctly through proper planning; life can happen for you.

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Why you should get Naked more Often

Since the beginning of time, the natural state of human beings has been one without clothes. Clothing came after human beings had the revelation of nudity:

When the woman saw that the fruit of the tree was good for food and pleasing to the eye, and also desirable for gaining wisdom, she took some and ate it. She also gave some to her husband, who was with her, and he ate it. Then the eyes of both of them were opened, and they realized they were naked; so they sewed fig leaves together and made coverings for themselves.

Genesis 3:6-7

Now, I love clothes as much as the next person, especially in the winter; However, what if I told you that there were benefits to wearing them less often? Living a minimal clothing lifestyle can promote mental, physical, and emotional health.

Improved Self-Esteem

There can be an inherent sense of shame associated with one’s natural state. Aside from the pragmatic purposes of wearing clothes, sometimes we cover up our physical bodies to protect our emotional selves.   

Getting comfortable with being in your natural state can improve your self-confidence. When you are accepting of yourself, you put yourself in a position to be accepted by others. We can get so caught up with the fear of being judged to the point that we will diminish our individuality.

Acclimating to your natural state can help you become more secure in who you are. Positive self-esteem comes from feeling good about yourself, knowing you are supported, and not being bashful about who you are.

When you are naked you are forced to face yourself, literally. This is called vulnerability. Humans do not like feeling vulnerable because we fear rejection. Self-esteem improves when one learns how to stop rejecting themselves.

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How to Create the Life that you Want

Are you tired? Has life had the last laugh at every pivotal point? Are you disgruntled at your job, in your relationships, with the state of the world? Now more than ever the opportunity to be the person you have always wanted to be is manifesting all around you.

The thing keeping you from where you want to be is mindset. Here is a simple trick on how to change your life and create your ideal reality:

Change your mind, Change your life.

Yup. That’s it. No long elaborated bullets points or top 5 hacks. Simply, Change your mind, change your life.

At this point It should be no secret that I am a fan of Jay Z and Kanye West. These two billionaires that I identify with on multiple levels are pinnacles of success for me. As such, they have become my “mentors”.

Jay Z and Kanye introduced me into the world of manifestation. Over the course of this pandemic, I have engaged in thought therapy and have put myself in alignment with the life that I want.

What does that mean you ask?

It means that I learned how to stop fighting against life, and against myself. I have become a co-creator of my life and not just someone along for the ride.

This starts with your mindset. Are your thoughts in alignment with your situation or your desires?

Our desires are unrelenting. When you know what you want – you know what you want. Our circumstances however, are on a constant swivel. The strength of one’s mindset is in how tenaciously it clings to one’s desires, and not their circumstance.

The Law of Attraction

The Law of Attraction is described as:

The ability to attract into our lives whatever we are focusing on.

It is the idea that we are what we think.

Many people including myself, have been applying the law of attraction but just not in a way that yields the results that we want. The Bible says that life and death is in the power of the tongue. I use to speak very negatively over myself, friends and family, romantic relationships, my career path, and more.

What we do not realize is that what get’s repeated gets remembered, and what get’s remembered gets done. There was no fruit in those areas of my life because I kept telling myself subconsciously that I was not worthy of my desires.

Effective application of the law of attraction looks like shifting your subconscious and allowing your expectations to create our reality.

In other words, once I shifted my focus from my circumstance to my desires, I put myself in the path of what I really want.

The Law of Vibration

Everything has its own vibrational frequency. Everything around us is in constant motion. Even stationary objects are at constant motion vibrating at higher frequencies.

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Since everything vibrates, including humans, we are essentially frequency conductors. We attract to us whatever frequency we are on.

Have you ever wanted something so bad, and one day the right opportunity came along seemingly out of no where? What you were doing was raising your vibrations to be in alignment with that thing you wanted.

Statistically, 42% of people are more likely to complete their goals when they write them down. This is a pragmatic practice of manifestation. When you get on the same vibrational frequency of what you want, you put yourself in a position for it to actually manifest.

An Attractive Mindset

Our biggest obstacle is our mind, and our Achilles heel is our confirmation bias. If we can learn to think better, we become better.

The challenge with thinking better is it requires us to change how we think about what we think.

That thing that you think about when you are not thinking must change; because that is what determines the trajectory of your life.

Our subconscious drives us, and our confirmation bias is the GPS. As humans we are always looking for things to affirm what we already believe.

The simplest example of this is, if you have ever wanted a certain type of care before, then all of the sudden you start seeing that same car all around your neighborhood. This happens because your mind looks for things in and around your life that affirm what you believe.

In the same way, our confirmation bias can allow negative thoughts to perpetuate in our mind. Every day we shape our reality because we naturally gravitate towards – attract to ourselves what we already believe.    

Can you Believe Better?

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The real question is, can you believe better?

The answer is yes, but it takes effort. The draw back to believing in something, is that there will always be opposition. What we choose to focus on should be set with clear intentions. You need to know what you want as if it is already yours.

If we can be resolute in what we believe the opposition does not matter, because we are focused, and that thing that we are focused on is being affirmed in our lives every single day.

Your circumstance may tell you that you cannot have what you want. But what you believe must be truer than what you see or hear. You cannot allow the noise of the world to drown out your desires.

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Originally published May 5th 2020

Tips and Tricks to Stay Motivated, Keep Engaged, and be a High Performer

Staying motivated can be a challenge. One day you are high off life: checking off all your boxes on your to do list, being accountable to others, and staying on top of your responsibilities. The next, you find that there are not enough hours in a day, you are only halfway through your list, and do not feel like doing much of anything. These types of swings in activity can be detrimental because an unmotivated person is an unproductive person – and that can be a slippery slope.

There are several reasons why your fire may dwindle and the first thing to note is, that is a human quality. Fatigue happens to everyone. Becoming unmotivated is not the issue, the problem is around how one re-motivates themselves.

This is a concern because as mentioned, becoming unmotivated can be a slippery slope. An hour can turn into a day can turn into a week of opportunities that we allow to pass us by, all because we were not energized to get after them. You can see how this can be a dilemma.

While staying motivated can be a difficulty for some, it is a worthy opponent worth facing head on. Once you learn how to stay motivated setbacks will become setups for major comebacks.  

Here are some tips and tricks on how to stay motivated, keep engaged, and be a high performer:

Review your Goals

What is it that you set out to accomplish this week, this month, this year? It is imperative to not only set goals for yourself but to also review them constantly. I have goals for this year that I review daily, monthly goals that I review bi-weekly, and daily goals that I review on a moment to moment basis.

The number of goals and the amount of times that you review them is not important, but what is important is having that check and balance in place.

A goal gives you a direction, and reviewing it regularly helps you to stay on the right path. Every good motivator has a driving factor, something that makes a person want to push forward. A goal is great for this because a good goal has intrinsic value.

The better the goal the more important it is to a person, the more that person will strive for it.

If you are having troubles getting motivated by your goals it is likely because that goal is not big enough. The true value of a goal is in its ability to help you grow. If your goal is easily achievable try dreaming bigger.

Get around people with a vision big enough to include you. Allow yourself to consider your deepest desires, then ask yourself: why not me, why not now? Doing these things will help you make better goals for yourself, keeping you motivated.

Remember your Why

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Why are you doing what you are doing in the first place? What is your calling/passion, and is your life in alignment with it?

One of the biggest demotivators is doing something purposelessly. Every one of us has a reason to be alive, and it is for that reason that we live. Sometimes the mundanity of life can strip us of our meaning causing us to fall into a motivation vacuum.

Consider a motivation vacuum as living aimlessly. A lifeless lifestyle that leads nowhere. This is how a lot of people live today: drained of their virility and creativity because of life circumstances.

When what you do is out of alignment with who you are, motivational destitution can ensue because you feel meaningless.

Knowing your why combats these negative emotions because it is a failsafe. Your why is your center. As long as I know why I am doing something, the what of what I am doing is not as important. Your why should be a barometer to measure the trajectory of your life.

Have an A1 Support System

Your support system can make or break you. It is important to have discernment in whom you allow to tend to the garden of your life. Growing up I use to hear the phrase: show me who your friends are, and I will show you your future.

This concept is as true today as it has ever been. You must have an A1 support system. These are people or a person who encourages you, speaks life over you, and sees more in you than you may see in yourself. This person(s) is a visionary and can see life’s potential for you.

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A good support system show’s their support through their actions. Do you have anyone who is willing to act on your behalf? Someone that can provide structural support but can also Identify potential problem areas.

This type of help is such a motivation booster because someone is willing to invest their time into your cause. These are people willing to do life with you whether it be for the duration of it, or for a season.

There is also the value that comes from having an accountability partner in these types of interactions. Do not underestimate the power of a check in. Having someone regularly check in on you can make a world of difference when it comes to staying motivated.

The last thing anyone ever wants is to feel as though they have let someone they care about down. Having a strong support system that is invested in your wellbeing will make you want to do and be better, if for no other reason for the purpose of not letting them down.

Look for Affirmations

The last tip I want to share on how to stay motivated, is to look for affirmations. Affirmations are fact-based encouragements. These are things that on the surface may not have any significant meaning, but they are significant to you. An example of this is if you have ever identified a car that you wanted/liked, then out of nowhere that car started popping up every time you left your house.

Does that mean, there was an influx of these cars in your neighborhood? Probably not. More likely what it actually means is you were looking for something to affirm what you believe. You had a shift in your focus.

Affirmations are so valuable because they are like breadcrumbs leading to a desired destination. It is a small yet poignant way to measure progress. Affirmations put you in alignment with what you want to enter your life.

We engage in this motivational skill by looking for things that resemble what we desire.

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This tip is all about progress: Is it gauge-able and what does it mean?

One can also engage in verbal affirmations. This is when we speak what we believe about ourselves over ourselves. This has a similar affect in that by speaking affirmations over yourself you start influencing your subconscious.

You can essentially reprogram the way the world interacts with you by speaking and invoking what you want. No this is not magic, what you want is not just going to appear. However, by looking for and speaking affirmations in and over your life, you change your vibrational frequency to allow certain things to naturally come to you.

This is great for staying motivated because of what it does to your mind. Affirmations literally reprogram your mind to be able to perceive and receive the very things you want it to.

When My Black Perspective first started growing, I would constantly say ‘I am a 6-figure blogger’. It is an important goal of mine to have a successful blog, so I started affirming what a successful blog is to me. That affirmation encouraged me to be persistent about my blogging, which has brought this website leaps and bounds from where it was a year ago.

I could give other examples, but the point of this tip is to encourage yourself to take actionable steps.

Staying motivated can be difficult but it is not impossible. If you have a tenacious why, dynamic goals, an A1 support system, and can encourage yourself every now and again, keeping your fire lit will be a pleasure not a chore.

How do you manage feeling unmotivated? What is your why and how does it drive you?

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Does God Compromise?

A compromise is the coming to agreed terms among two parties. It is a settled negotiation for the purpose of mutual benefit. The bible tells us that: No one can serve two masters; for either he will hate the one and love the other, or he will be devoted to one and despise the other (Matthew 6:24).

A compromise is a depiction of devotion. A compromise says: I am willing to let go of this thing, because I care more about that thing.

The most evident place that we recognize compromise in our lives is in our relationships. Whether it be a familial, romantic, or business relationship, there is always some degree of compromise.

This is because as people we each come with different values and motives that are important to us. And sometimes those agendas can clash resulting in potentially detrimental disputes.

A compromise resolves/prevents those disputes. We compromise on things all the time whether it be money, time, travel plans, or food. We can also compromise our spirits (James 4:17), as we are to live in the world but not of it (1 John 2:15-17).

Spiritual Compromise

One of the essential components of a compromise is capitulation. You must be willing to give up something. But what you give up is just as if not more important than what you take on.

We compromise our spirits by tolerating things that are not life giving. This is where our convictions come into question.

What are you committed to? What are you not willing to give any ground on?

Having unshakable core values is called having a standard. The level of your standards impacts your quality of life. If you do not stand for anything, you fall for everything.

God has a standard; it is called holiness, and He wants us to live up to it. He wants us to live up to it because that is who He is (Leviticus 11:44).

We live up to God’s standard by avoiding negative spiritual compromises. The simplest way to explain negative spiritual compromise, is idolatry. Where you put your treasure so shall your heart be. What you surrender to will influence you.

When we idolize something, we invite that thing to take up residence in our spirits. God wants us to compromise on what we allow to influence our lives. He wants to be the one to reside in us (Ephesians 2:22).

Why does God want you to Compromise for Him?

God cannot be seen. It would literally kill us if we were to see his face (Exodus 33:20). That being said, He still wants to have a relationship with us. He does that by living in our hearts through the Holy Spirit.

It is the job the Holy Spirit to be the standard barer in our lives. Holiness is the standard and everything else falls short.

God holds us to the standard of Holiness because of the agreement He made with us. He agreed to dwell with us as long as we agreed to dwell with Him, this is called a covenant (Hebrews 13:5, Psalm 37:25).

A covenant is a contract, it outlines the parameters of a relationship, and the consequences if the agreement is broken. The perfect example of this is marriage.

Marriage is a covenant between two people. A marriage only works however, if the two individuals in union agree to the terms and conditions of that union. It is a compromise. So is the case with God, we go into relationship with Him when we compromise our values for His.

So, Does God Compromise?

The short answer is no, but the long answer is yes; let me give you both.

On one hand no, God does not compromise on His holiness standard. He cannot even be in the presence of unholiness (Psalm 5:4). And while he does want us to live up to that standard he also recognizes that it is not easy for us to do so.

On the other hand, He did already, in the form of Jesus. Jesus was God’s compromise with humanity. After realizing that not only was it impossible for humans to live up to the holiness standard by ourselves, but that it was also unfair because we did not know how; he sent Jesus.

Jesus is God’s son. 100% God in Spirit 100% Human in flesh. Instead of giving up on us, He showed us how committed to our covenant with Him He is.

Not only did Jesus keep the holiness standard, showing us that it is possible, but then he took it a step further and lowered the standard.

In the Torah there are over 600 rules and regulations associated with being holy. In Jesus’ lifetime he took all those rules and turned them into two:

Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength. The second is this: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself. There is no commandment greater than these.

Mark 12:30-31

The cost of our holiness was so immense that God allowed His son to die for it. That is how valuable we are. That is how determined God was to keep his covenant with us.

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Stretching is Changing my Life, It can Change your’s too

Over the last few weeks I have been stretching regularly and it has been amazing! What a lot of us in the western world do not realize is that a good amount of our every day life is not geared towards our health and wealth. From the way we sit, to what we eat, to what we watch/read.

We are inundated with things that are not good for us.

I got into stretching because I have been on a health kick recently. As part of my holistic approach to health, wealth, freedom, and prosperity, Health is Wealth. We are not our best selves when we are bogged down by consuming bad things. 

Everything you do should be geared towards your overall sense of contentment.  Stretching and working out in general is something that I actively incorporate in my regimen because my health is essential to my effectiveness. 

Benefits of stretching

Some of the benefits from stretching include: increased range of motion, better physical performance, better flexion, increased blood flow, and improved posture. Over the last three weeks I have noticed an increase in energy and more pliability. 

Your muscular system is what allows your body to move. It is also what protects and insulates your skeletal structure. We strengthen our muscles through the contracting of our muscle fibers (exercising).

When you stretch, your muscle fibers contract, and you activate the surrounding connective tissue. When that happens you allow your body to realign any disorganized fibers. These disorganized fibers are what cause tension in our body. Realigning them rehabilitates scarred connective tissue.

Throughout your life you will incur damage that will cause tension in your body. For some of us, our environments can be the catalyst for that tension. It is this tension that causes our bodies to lock up. Stretching allows us to clear that blockage so that we can be at peak performance. 

How I got into Stretching

I have technically been an athlete all my life in terms of physicality; so I was introduced to stretching at an early age. That being said, it was always my least favorite part of any workout. I would always do a physically intensive workout, and then save stretching for if I remembered to do it. 

It would always be in the back of my mind to stretch but it was not a priority for me

A few years ago I got into an nearly fatal car accident. Not only was my car totaled, but my body was in shock. I had to start going to physical therapy, and it helped with my body tension and strengthening my muscles.

From that point forward I became a strong believer in stretching. That being said it still did not have a relevant presence in my life until more recently.

Part of improving your quality of life is improving how you live. Since Covid-19 I have been intentional about improving my quality of life; This has included working out again, and specifically stretching. 

Some of the side affects I have noticed from the last 3 weeks include clarity of mind, increased intentionality, I feel ‘lighter on my feet’ so to speak; and I have a willingness to be more engaged. 

Start your Stretching Habit Today

The following are some stretches you can incorporate into your daily regimen that will only take all of 10 minutes to do: 


Sitting in a squat is actually our natural state. Sitting upright does not promote positive back or posture health. By sitting in a squat you get full range of motion. Get comfortable with the squat, It’s your friend. 

Butterfly Stretch

The butterfly stretch works your groin and inner thigh. Doing this can improve mobility and flexibility. The butterfly also helps with improving posture.  

Hip Flexors

The hip flexor is one of the better stretches you can do. It’s benefits range from improved posture, and lower back pain alleviation, to an increase in strength and conditioning in your lower body and core. 

There a plenty of other stretches you can do, these are just a few that I enjoy. Developing a stretching habit will do wonders for every area of your life. If you are willing to take 10-15 minutes out of your day for stretching, you too can see how beneficial releasing the tension in your body can be. 

Do you stretch, what kind of benefits do you get from it? How do you promote a healthy lifestyle in your own life? Did you enjoy this post and would you like to see more content like it? 

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Top Five Lessons I Learned after One Year of Blogging

Today makes one year since I started this blog! It has been a long journey but an enjoyable one; and I want to share the top five lessons I have learned thus far. Let’s jump right in: 

Lesson #1: Be Yourself

Since blogging has come into my life, I am more myself today than ever before. The entire process of creating a blog from scratch forces the real you to come out whether you like it or not. This has been most evident for me in my writing. 

I often credit Createandgo for all of the progress I’ve had especially in the last few months (more on that later), and one thing Alex and Lauren teaches is to niche down until it hurts.

When I first started blogging I was writing about anything and everything that came to mind. 

For me it just made sense: “hey I need something to write about… Oh how about I write about this”. And in hindsight, there were some posts that I wrote and shared that I probably should not have (those are down now). 

But to be honest, It was tough to niche down at the very beginning. At first I considered this blog for lack of a better phrase, a ‘dumping ground’. My content back then was definitely more focused on me as opposed to a particular audience

Now I am super niched down. I went from talking about travel, sharing daily updates, weighing in on current events, working out, and everything else I could think of, to honing in on: the millennial lifestyle, Mindset, and Christianity. 

I became more myself through my writing because by pinpointing the topics I had a passion for, I gave my voice the runway it needed to mature.

Lesson #2: I am a Creator First and a People-Pleaser Second

Now, this is a lesson that I am still learning. It is a constant challenge for a multitude of reasons. On one hand I want people to read and enjoy my content but on the other hand, I want to stay true to myself. Sometimes the two are mutually exclusive especially when it comes to content. 

As a blogger, If someone were to ask me to write out a job description for what I do, I would say I am a creator. There is no difference between a writer, singer, actor/performer, youtube personality, photographer, director, or CEO for that matter when it comes to being a creator. Creativity is something that we all have, the difference is in how we apply it. 

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For me it just so happened that creating content in the form of written expression was what manifested in my life. 

Writing for me is a gift and is an intrinsic part of who I am. As such, as a content creator I have to constantly be aware of what I produce and why I produce it. 

I want what bloggers call: engaged readers. Having people engaged in your content is essential. Look at Kim Kardashian West for example. Her brand does so well because people are engaged with it. Everyone wants to keep up with the Kardashians in some way. 

As a blogger, I want people who want to keep up with my content. The key to doing so however is authenticity. If I were to put parameters around my creative abilities to create content that only garnered clicks, my content would be shallow. 

I can go through this process of unpacking my journey thus far because I allow myself to be myself

This is so essential because a lot of times especially as a creator, if you are not confident and resolute in your content, you will find yourself chasing the mob for approval. The problem with that is, if you focus on pleasing everyone, you end up pleasing no one. 

The perfect example of this, is the name of this blog: My Black Perspective. I anguish about changing the domain name to this website at least once a week, especially now that the blog is growing. Sometimes I feel as though the name of the blog can be a turn off to potential readers. 

Every time I think about changing the name however, I always check my motives. Do I want to change the name because it may actually benefit the website, or do I want to change the name because I think I might get more visitors. 

The sad truth about blogging is that most people that visit your website, are one time visitors. So for me I always rationalize by saying, if people do not want to engage with my black perspective, then those same people probably would not engage if it had a different name; because I would still be the one producing the content. 

You have to be able to draw a line in the sand between what you do for you/your business, and what you do for your audience; There has to be a healthy compromise

Lesson #3: Content is King 

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This one is a little bit of a no brainer, but particularly, if you are interested in starting your own blog/creative journey, content is king. As a creator, and especially as a blogger, it is my number one job to make sure that my content is always top tier.  

I currently publish my main content three times a week: Twice here on My Black Perspective, and once on Ken’s Corner where I publish my premium content on world news and events. Aside from my main content, I also produce content for my Instagram at least twice a week, as well as constantly generate new pins for Pinterest

I am also working on more guides/courses for subscribers to take advantage of. And I will be rolling out a online coaching business in the coming weeks. On top of all of that I also produce a newsletter every weekend that features amazing content. Oh, and I almost forgot to mention, that I just opened an E-Store, click here to check it out!

I say all of that to say, a lot of time goes into blogging. It can be mentally taxing just based on volume of content. You have to find what works for you, and while I would not suggest three plus pieces of content every week to start; It’s important to know that the creative process never stops.

When I am not writing new posts, I am writing down new ideas – that may come up at the most random of times. Keep your notes app open or a notepad always available as a creator/blogger. It only takes one idea to be the right idea

Lesson #4 Be Ready and Willing to Adapt

Every blogger yearns for their first viral moment. That pin that gets shared thousands of times, that post that provokes high engagement, or that product that goes from dud to stud overnight. 

I have learned that those opportunities come from positioning. A lot of that success is from being in the right place at the right time. It is important to be willing to tweak or change your approach if for no other reason than for strategic advantage. 

Do not be afraid to reassess your strategy. 

When it came to my content I had to take a long hard look at myself and decide what was important and what was not. My Mindset content is a great example of this. 

When I first started this blog I had a general mental health category. After a few entries I was finding that I was struggling with creating content for this category because it did not fully convey the message I was trying to get across. I recently decided to change it to being a Mindset category because that fell more in alignment with the category’s purpose.

Is what you are doing in alignment with your purpose?

People that want to be successful in a certain area take actions that reflect that. As a blogger I focus on ways of building my brand within this stratosphere. If I were doing something that was not progressing me in this craft my efforts would be ineffective. 

Do not get so caught up doing things one way that you end up sabotaging yourself

This blog has gone through a multitude of changes, I mean just the number of themes alone that I have gone through would make your head spin. All adaptation is, is a reflection of maturity. If you are willing to change or adapt that means you are willing to grow

Lesson #5 The only way to Fail is to Quit

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A failure does not fail because they do not try. They fail because they decide to stop trying. If you are a blogger or some other type of creator, it is your duty to not quit. Any passionate creator will tell you that they cannot see themselves doing something that is not creating.

I used to get looked down upon for blogging by others all of the time, until I took a stand and said no – this is my passion, this is what gives me life, and this is what I am doing. 

Blogging took on a new gravitas in my life this year at the beginning of the coronavirus pandemic. Back in March 2020 I decided to start working towards turning this blog into a business. Once I did, I got connected to blogging groups, Createandgo, and a plethora of other resources necessary to turn that dream into a reality. 

Since then it has been an up hill journey however, I do not see myself doing anything else with my life.  This is not something to be taken lightly, because some people can go a whole lifetime before they figure out what it is they want to do with their life. 

Do not let a desire for yourself fall by the waste side. Quitters never prosper. 

Which of these lessons resonated with you? Are you a blogger/content creator, if so what has your journey been like thus far?

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Have a Practical Money Mindset that Attracts more Money in your Life

If you’re like most people, you probably wish you had a little more capital laying around. Money is great, we need it to be contributors to civil society, to get ahead in life, and to sustain a certain level of happiness. As a tool nothing trumps money. 

Like a lot of people I use to believe that if I had enough money, then all of my problems would go away. And yes while being well off intrinsically makes life easier, a lot of money can come with baggage all its own. It is not about the resource, it is about how the resource is used

The way we think about money has a direct impact on how we use it in our lives. We each have a unique relationship with money, and the health of that relationship can dictate the health of our bank account

Not sure on the relationship status between you and your money? Ask yourself: What would you do with $1 Million? Any healthy relationship is forward moving

Do you have a plan for such a wind fall/ the resources necessary to develop and execute said plan? After you pay taxes and personal debt where would the rest go, and why would it go there? 

The challenge people have with money is that their mindset towards money is often negative. We all know someone who is always fiscally challenged, heck, we might be that someone. If that’s the case let’s fix that today

Money is not some elusive commodity that only the lucky or societal elite are allowed to amass. Money is available to us all, we just need to put ourselves in positions where we start attracting more of it.

Make your money matter

Money will not show up where it is not welcome.

Here is a hard truth… MONEY IS NOT REAL. I know that may be a tough pill to swallow, but Literally, money is just paper. The only value money has, is the value we place on it. In other words, money is as useful as you make it

Once you are able to look at money objectively you realize that it is a resource like anything else you use to survive. This is why financially savvy people pay themselves before anything else

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Attracting more money in your life is about dictating where your money goes and not allowing your money to dictate where you go. 

The primary way we develop this mentality is in how we use our money. Do not underestimate the power of a good budget

A budget is a practical tool that helps you keep track of income and expenses. I am a proponent of zero-based budgeting. It has help me gain control of every dollar that flows through my hands.

Budgeting is a simple practice that does wonders for your money mindset because it forces you to say to yourself and your money, that your money matters and you care about where it goes and how it is spent. 

This is how you build a foundation for an effective money mindset that attracts more money into your life. By stewarding what you already have well, you are signaling that you can handle the responsibility that comes with more money.

Put your money to work 

The next thing that is debilitating to a bountiful money mindset is not putting your money to work. What differentiates the rich from the poor among other things is passive income. Rich people can concern themselves with more pressing matters because they do not worry about where their money is coming from. 

Every person’s goal should be to hit their critical massTo replace one’s earned income with residual income from investments. This is financial freedom. By becoming self sustaining you free up your money, time, and other resources for new opportunities. 

The easiest way to establish a bottom line for yourself is to invest in the stock market. Put your money in a place where it can grow and gain interest. 

A lot of people think they are doing enough by putting money into a savings account. Unfortunately however, most savings accounts these days do not have a good interest rate. 

By diversifying your portfolio and putting some money into a stock, pension plan, IRA, government bond, or some other investment vehicle, you sow seeds of financial independence. 

Operate from a place of Abundance 

The healthy money mindset says: I have everything I need. The reality of it is, that statement is true whether you have $1 Million or $1. Attracting more money into your life is about believing that it is already on its way.

I have heard rich people say that they did not realize they were rich until it already happened. This is because money is a byproduct of our actions. Yes we have to work for it, but we also have to decide that we are worthy of it. 

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This was a challenge for me. I had to allow myself to be okay with not being broke. As weird as it may sound, this is apart of the money mindset as well. I have developed affirmations and state of being incantations that connect me with my appealing future:

I am thankful for God’s abundance in my life 

Money is gravitating towards me right now 

I am thankful that money comes to me easily and frequently 

Numerate what you want, identify the role money has in your life. Is your money in your life to keep you above poverty? Or is your money in your life meaningful, purposeful, and in capable hands!

So to recap, if you want to start attracting more money in your life today do the following:

Place significant value on your money. The best way to do this is by budgeting. If you can start seeing where your money is and is not going, you can make the necessary adjustments to take back control of your financial life. 

Find ways to make money from your money. This can easily be done by opening an investment account. Remember this is about mindset, and lazy money is no good. As a resource, where is the most effective place to put your money so that it can grow and mature and gain in usefulness? 

Live as though you have everything you need. There is no room for lack. By wishing something away you can actually attract that thing into your life.

When you live as though you already are where you want to be, you create the space necessary for more resource to come to you. By practicing affirmations of abundance you train your mind to perpetuate sufficiency in every area of your life.  

What mental road blocks do you have when it comes to how you think about money? 

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