5 Ways to Combat Depression

Feeling depressed can be debilitating. It can make you feel as if you are in a void. Covered by a cloud of darkness and surrounded by a wave of emptiness. What makes it all the more abhorrent is that you cannot always differentiate that thought process from real life.

When I experience a depressed mood, it can sometimes take me a while to acknowledge that, that’s what is happening. As the lines between reality and perception start to blur, one’s resolve can start to shrink. When that happens one’s mind can be their biggest snare.

I was officially diagnosed with depression back in 2016, and since then, I have learned the skills and techniques necessary to combat some symptoms associated with it. While I do not think depression can be 100% overcome, I do think it can be managed well.

So well in fact, that you can drastically reduce your depressed moods. By learning how to incorporate the following techniques into your daily life, you can position yourself to receive everything life has for you on the other side of a depressed state.

1. Know your Enemy

One of the first pitfalls of depression is people do not know its characteristics. People can identify a depressed mood, but beyond ‘feeling sad’, your average person may be unable to effectively explain what that looks like. One of the reasons for this is because depression sometimes disguises itself as a lifestyle choice.

Being lethargic, unmotivated, or disinterested in something for example, can all come across by themselves as a person’s affect, however, in some cases those dispositions can be a perpetuated symptom of depression that has yet to be addressed.

You have to know what depression looks like and how it presents itself. There are various nuances of depression but the most common symptoms include:

  • Depressed mood
  • Flat affect
  • Insomnia
  • Fatigue
  • Low self-esteem
  • Feelings of hopelessness
  • Feelings of worthlessness
  • Excessive guilt
  • Suicidal ideations

2. Get Active

Upon being able to acknowledge that you may be exhibiting symptoms of depression, the next essential is to get physically active.

You beat depression one symptom at a time.

Lethargy is the one symptom that can be most easily combated. One study showed that 15 minutes of physical activity [specifically running] can reduce one’s risk of major depression by 26%.

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Combating depression means combating lethargy with activity. Now this does not necessarily mean you have to run a 15 minute mile daily, but this does mean that at the very least, you should be going outside every day in some capacity and engaging in a significant Level of physical activity (running/hiking/bike riding/going on a long walk).

It has also been shown, that sunlight increases the level of serotonin in our brains which in addition to diminishing depressed mood also: regulates behaviors, appetite, sleep, memory, and sexual desires and functions.

3. Examine your Thoughts

Additionally, depression can have grave implications on one’s thought pattern. You may not always be able to control what you think, but you can learn how to identify when your thinking pattern may be off.

When you examine your thoughts you are questioning the validity of any renegade thought that may cross your mind. This technique is a bit more challenging as it does take a higher level of self-awareness however, by knowing why you may be thinking a certain way, you can come to understand why you may be feeling a particular way in response to your thoughts.

Examining your thoughts starts by you being able to identify when one of your thoughts is unrepresentative of your reality. If a person starts thinking or acting abnormally, by taking time to understand why, they can begin to start replacing those negative thoughts and behaviors with positive ones.

The effectiveness of this technique is amplified when its paired with an accountability partner. Sometimes we cannot see our own flaws, and by having someone who is willing to journey with us, they may be able to better pinpoint a potentially maladaptive behavior trait.

4. Practice Mindfulness

Mindfulness is a mental health technique where one practices having a conscious awareness of oneself. At base level we should each know what makes us tick as individuals; mindfulness is knowing why that thing makes you tick; And why when it does, you tick in the way that you do. You are mindful when you are aware of your reasoning.

A bedrock way of developing a mindfulness habit is by being able to identify your triggers. Triggers are people, places, and things that elicit a negative response whether it be mentally, emotionally, or behaviorally.

Knowing what triggers you can give a wealth of insight. It helps to develop a framework necessary to protect against negative influences.

5. Speak to Someone

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Above all the other techniques, this is the most essential. When in a depressed state it is important to have a support system that you can turn to. This support system can be composed of friends and family, and if necessary, in can and should also include a licensed therapist.

Thankfully, there is a multitude of resources easily available so that individuals do not have to suffer in silence. As mentioned, depression can be very nuanced, and while these techniques may yield varying results depending on the severity of one’s symptoms, a mental health condition like major depressive disorder or persistent depressive disorder with any kind of comorbidity, is not something to be taken lightly.

Seeking proper help can acutely reduce a person’s chances of dying by suicide because of depression. Thankfully in 2020, the stigma associated with seeking professional mental health help has dwindled dramatically. In addition to it becoming a regular part of conversation, several online services and hotlines have also become mainstream.

Our lives are not as bleak as we may think while in a depressed state. The challenge however is in how you change how you feel about what you are experiencing. These techniques are what I found to be effective for me, however, there are a multitude of other ways one can actively combat depression.

You are filled with promise. Do your best every day to live out that promise to its fullest potential. Do not let depression be where your story ends.

Originally published June 22, 2020

Five Amazing Ab Workouts you should Start Doing Today

If you are like me then you see the value in having a chiseled abs. It goes deeper than just being able to take your shirt off confidentially at the beach. It is about feeling comfortable in your own skin. No one should feel like a stranger in their own body.

An essential part of living in alignment is about engaging your body and connecting it with your spirit being. It is not enough to think or believe something; if it really matters to you it will cause you to act on it. Such has been the case with me and my abs. Health and wellness is paramount to living your dream life.

You cannot just acquire something, you must inhabit it. This boils down to putting your money where your mouth is. Much of what we want is not difficult to attain, but the value is in being able to sustain that quality of life. From a practical perspective strengthening your core muscles is more worthwhile than not.

In addition to helping you look like a Greek god, strengthening your abs also helps with posture, overall physical strength, endurance, and stamina. When you have a strong core you reduce your chances of injury, back pains, and poor posture. Here are five of my personal favorite ab workouts that you should start doing today:

1. Crunches

First up is crunches. I love a good crunch. They are a quick and easy way to engage your core. When I do mine I activate my core by squeezing my ab muscles throughout the whole movement.

I do a full motion crunch by using the momentum from my legs to work my lower abdomen as well. Crunches have a lot of variations. If you want more flexion in your back (which would allow for a more intentional crunch), you can use a ball to extend your radius.

2. Hanging Leg Raises

One of my problem areas is my lower stomach. I have a belt of stubborn fat there that I have been slowly but surely chiseling away at. For that reason, hanging leg raises are a God sent.

This workout is great for your lower abs while also allowing for you to get a nice upper body stretch from hanging on the bar. The key behind this workout is not only using your abs to lift your hips and legs; But also using your abs to stabilize you, keeping you from swaying back and forth.

3. Bicycles

These bad boys have a special place in my heart! I love bicycle crunches. Aside from being by far one the most fun ab workouts you can do, it also activates your entire core.

The concept behind this workout is that as you cycle your legs back and forth you touch opposite elbow to opposite knee. While doing this motion you are also utilizing your core to stabilize and support your movements. This one is definitely a 9/10 recommend.

4. Reverse Crunches

This one is another heavy hitter. Similar in motion to the regular crunch however, this exercise puts emphasis on your lower abs. You start with your legs extended with a slight bend in your knee.

You then engage your abs by bringing up and tucking your knees into your chest. When doing the tucking motion you want your lower back and hips to come off the floor ever so slightly so that you are getting a full range of motion.

5. Plank

All hail King plank. If you are not familiar, planks are an abs workout staple – at least to me anyway. The idea behind this movement is that you want to put yourself in a position where you could potentially double as a table.

Your back should be so straight that you could host a tea party with fine china on it. This is achieved by not only being in a plank position but also by squeezing your abs in the process. This is a great workout for core strength.

A typical bench mark for me is 1:30 – 2:00 minutes. That is definitely easier said than done, so when you try these just go at your own pace. A 30 second hold at a time is a good place to start.

Bonus Workout: Steam Rollers

I am all about adding value and this post is not an exception to that. Here are a couple of bonus workouts that you could try. Steam rollers are a great ab workout because you are engaging your core while doing some calisthenics at the same time.

Steam rollers consist of the same movements as bicycles with the only notable difference being, that you are standing. Make sure you are being intentional with getting your core involved by squeezing your abdomen throughout the movement.

Bonus Workout: Hanging Toe Touches

Here is another one of my go -to ab routines. Let me start by saying that these are not for the faint of heart. If you want to take the leg raises to the next level try inverting yourself. This workout ravages your core because the only way your feet are touching the bar/your hands is, if you have a strong core.

The first time I attempted these they were not happening. I could not invert my lower body at all. Now they are a little easier since my core is stronger however, skillfulness in this technique comes from your ability to stabilize. Getting your legs up is only half the battle, the other half is coming back down without swinging or swaying.

I hope you found value in this post and will try out at least one of the workouts I laid out. I had a lot of fun creating this content so please feel free to let me know what you think and if you want to see more stuff like this from me. Remember I want you to be wealthy – and health is wealth. What good is all the money in the world if you cannot enjoy it? Do not neglect your body, it needs you to take care of it.

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What to do When you are Frustrated

I am frustrated. I do not want to be, but I do not know how not to be either. This is when frustration usually appears in your life. What do you do when you have done everything you can? It is not your fault when life decides to start working against you; but it is your fault if you decide to start working against life.

Frustration happens when you are in total alignment and yet and still there is no breakthrough. It is a rather pragmatic issue. If you are doing everything within your power, and things are still not working in your favor, the first thing anyone would tend to do is dissect what the issue is.

Sometimes however, even after dissecting the issue and trying to understand why your efforts are seemingly fruitless, you still come up with nothing. Have you ever tried putting something together, and you do not have all the materials you need, but you do not find out until halfway through the build? When you are frustrated, building on progress can be one of the most difficult things you could do.

Why would anyone keep working at something that is obviously not working/producing anything? There is no answer aside from hope and passion.

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If you genuinely want something you must want every aspect of that thing. That means the ups and the downs, the valleys, and the mountains. What do you do when you do not know what to do? Keep doing what you are doing. I know, it is a tough pill to swallow, and not the answer that I would want to hear, but once again this is a pragmatic issue.

The first thing to address is your perception of the situation. What is the source of your frustration? For me, right now it is that I feel limited. I feel as though my options are few.

After Identifying the what, then you must uncover the why. For me that would look like exposing and exploring the root of me feeling limited. After the why is revealed the next thing to do is to discover the how. How can you mitigate your frustration?

Look for help Outside Yourself

What happens is, the root of our frustration more often then not is a clear and concise issue without a clear and concise resolution. What this means is, you may not be able to solve this problem on your own. In this type of circumstance, all you can do, is all that you can do.

Frustration is a practical problem that requires an outside intervention. Not only can we not do life by ourselves, we cannot solve all our problems by ourselves either. Even Superman has the Justice League. Being in community can be a great resource in a moment of frustration.

You can discuss your thoughts, receive new perspective, and come to new resolutions. Coaches, mentors, and accountability partners are great in times like these as well. Sometimes, in moments of frustration, we really just need to take a moment to vent.

Do not neglect your right to “complain”. I put complain in quotations because a moment of emotional release should not devolve into a bash session. You are not discontent in your circumstance; you are distressed by it. Sometimes your will to grow is larger than your capacity. You are ready to climb the mountain, but you cannot find where the trail starts.

It is Okay be Angry

In these moments it is important to express your anger.  Find a safe space whether that be in a journal, a friend, a family member, a blog, a podcast, or a YouTube channel; and release how you feel. Blogging is such a release for me because, not only do I get to express myself freely, but I also get to help others in the process. Processing frustrations was one of the reasons I considered blogging in the first place.

Getting your feelings off your chest is important for a myriad of reasons. When you harbor anger, you allow resentment to grow. Expressing your negative emotions allows you to be free in your feelings. At the end of the day, the last thing you should want, is to feel as though you are not in control of yourself.

Letting go of your negative emotions will also help you problem solve better. I personally cannot think straight when my mind is cluttered. When you emote your gripes, you allow yourself to free up some of your mental capacity so that you can begin to process things more logically again.

Ask for What you Want

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Do not be afraid to ask for what you want. The good thing about being frustrated about something is, that in most cases, you know what you want/need to relieve you of your discomfort. Do not be afraid to ask for it. Part of activating the law of attraction in your life is asking for what you desire.

In the bible it says:

Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives; the one who seeks finds; and to the one who knocks, the door will be opened.

Mathew 7:7-8

If you find yourself frustrated; do not hesitate to ask God/the universe for relief. The Universe is conspiring for you not against you. Feeling frustrated is part of the growing process. The good news is, God wants to see you grow.

IF you are living in alignment yet find yourself in a place of frustration; express those feelings. Do not deviate from the plan; and remember that life is here to shape you, not break you. You are a spiritual being having a physical experience. You can have anything you believe you are worthy of receiving.

Tap into your why power and push forward. The frustration will pass, and when it does, the breakthrough on the other side will be too marvelous to comprehend.

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Unsure if whether or not you are living in alignment? Well let me ask you, are you living in such a way where your mind, body, and spirit, are all fulfilled? No this is not a trick question. It is very possible for you to live a life that perpetually satisfies your entire being; and not just one that may provide happy moments but is ultimately lacking.  Sign up for my free life essentials course to learn how to create a solid foundation in your life on which you can build your dreams on.

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How to Live in the Moment

Happy Labor Day! I hope you have been enjoying your extended weekend. I wanted to take the occasion to briefly highlight something that I think is essential right now. Living in the moment is one of the most valuable things you could be doing right now.

In actuality, living in the moment is probably the most important thing. Life happens in moments. Life is a series of experiences; however, I think sometimes we believe that only the big experiences count.

What is vital to understand is, you make every moment count. The only thing separating you from having valuable experiences, is intentionality. Intent is a commitment to execution.

Intentionality says I am going to make this count. You are living in the moment when you are making your moments count. Are you adding value to your time?  

If life is giving you an opportunity to engage in various experiences, what are you bringing to those experiences?

Proper etiquette, when going to someone else’s home for an event, is to not show up empty handed. When you enter into a Kairos moment, what do you bring with you?

Living in the moment is about harnessing your value and executing on it in such a way that your impact reverberates.

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How to Have and Keep a Goal

Are you familiar with burnout? Burnout is a feeling of being physically, emotionally, and mentally exhausted. You have no will to continue. This happens when you allow yourself to get overwhelmed by the various environmental stimuli in your life.

Sometimes, you can fatigue your spirit as well. Maybe you were hoping for something good to happen, and that good never happened. Maybe you are working to start/grow a business, but no matter how much resource you put into it, that business is struggling with getting off the ground.

Is it possible that there is some deep desire you started pursuing, but life got in the way and took you off course? What do you do when what you have, is not representative of what you want? How can you keep going when the world is telling you to stop; or even worse, turn around?

As humans, we get tired. We need sleep, we need rest. But sometimes we also get tired in our circumstance. An expectation is a hope for an anticipated future. To have an expectation implies that you are believing for something to manifest in your life.

Burnout/fatigue can happen when we are in a constant state of hoping, wishing, and taking actionable steps towards our goals, but nothing seems to be happening.  

If you have found or currently find yourself in this position, here are a few ways to combat ‘expectation burnout’:

The Law of Diminishing Returns

One thing for you to understand is that you may be experiencing the side effects of what is called the Law of Diminishing Returns. This law says that as you grow in your knowledge/skill for something, the rate at which you recognize that growth starts to diminish.

It is like going from multiplication to fractions in school. Because you are building on existing knowledge, it is easier to learn how to divide a number when you know what a number is, as opposed to having no concept of an integer.

The same is the case with the Law of Diminishing Returns: the more you do something, the better you get at it, the harder it is to identify significant growth. This is because in most cases, the information that you learn at the beginning stages of something is usually the most new in terms of concept, and the most pertinent in terms of execution.

By the time you know the essentials of something, the growth margins become a lot smaller. Consider a sprinter in track. .001 of a second, can determine an entire outcome of a race: whether or not an athlete breaks/makes a new record, or whether that athlete places top 3. At some point in all our lives, growth becomes more nuanced.

It is not necessarily about the rate at which you are growing, as it can be more about the quality of growth that is taking place. If you find yourself in a place of hopelessness, or in a funk, unsure on how to get out; Get more detailed about what you do.

This happened to me recently. I was noticing that my growth in various areas of my life was becoming stagnant. I knew I had things to accomplish, but I felt like doing those things alone was not sufficient enough if I wanted to hit my goals. The other issue was, I felt as though I was doing all that I could and that there was nothing for me to improve on.

What I realized was, the skills that I had available to me were in fact sufficient, I just was not using them sufficiently.

Sometimes you have to get granular with your progress. How can you improve on the action behind the action? This is where consistent growth lives, because you are actively looking for improvement.

The Compound Effect

Another thing for you to realize, is that the compound effect can be boring. The compound effect is this idea that small consistent action that I take today, will have a large long-term payoff. The notion behind this is that by doing something repetitiously, you are growing because you are layering the effects of every time you engage in that activity.

Repetition is the mother of learning, and a key component of success. When you are always learning something new that is taking you closer to your goals, you are being successful. Success is not about the ‘stage’, it is about the journey you took to get to that stage.  

The problem with the compound effect is that it can be monotonous. The way in which you combat that, is by making the monotony, an essential part of your day. Build that daily boring/not sexy activity into your regimen. If you do, you will not think about it as much, meaning it will come more natural to you.

Also, part of a growth mindset is being able to find value in the little things. If you are diligent in the small things, you will be confident and capable to handle the bigger stuff.

It is Okay to take a Step Back

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Now I know this one may sound counter intuitive but hear me out. What is more important: the goal, or when you accomplish said goal? In most cases one would probably say that taking longer to achieve what they want is better than, failing at trying to do it at a faster pace.

You do not have to be superman/superwoman!

If you are feeling fatigued/overwhelmed, it is okay to take a personal day. Refresh and collect your thoughts. Allow yourself to find new muses, and sources of inspiration. You are taking part in the creative process when you do this.

I do not know about you, but some of my best ideas come to me while I am connecting with friends and family. This is because new experiences invite us to explore and uncover different paradigms. Having revelation, the introduction of new knowledge into your life, is all part of the creative process.

Sometimes the water is not going down the drain because the drain is clogged. If you are not giving yourself time to decompress, you are literally clogging up your mental capacity. Take a step back and allow for new ideas to naturally flow. You never know when the next idea will be the right idea, so stay in position to receive.

Reevaluate the Size of your Dream

How big is your dream, how lofty is your goal? One good way to combat expectation fatigue is to realign yourself with your goals. Why are you doing what you are doing in the first place?

Sometimes we could be standing in the way of our own growth simply by being out of alignment with what we want to accomplish. Big goals come equipped with a Rutter. If you find that you are having a hard time excelling in your life, maybe now is a good time to reconsider what you are actually after.

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I know I personally never worked hard for something that I did not want. Being out of alignment with your goals could mean that you are going after something of diminished value. Is what you want still what you want, and are you actually pursuing it, or did you get off track somewhere along the way.

This has happened to me several times before, where I was doing something that I thought I should be doing. But eventually, I would burnout, and run out of energy.

After taking time to reevaluate what I was doing, I would find that what I was doing and what I thought would help me progress, was just me standing in my own way. I was not taking actions that reflect what my primary goal was.

Taking time to reconsider your dreams also helps you to discover the scale and scope of that dream. A good dream and aspiration has space for others. Who is included in your plans? Sometimes we thwart ourselves by not having a large enough goal. The value in having a big goal is that there is room to grow within that goal.

A small goal can be limiting because it is feasibly accomplishable. If you identify that you want to do something, and that something that you want to do does not push you to overcome yourself, you really did not do anything worth doing. Having an expectation is about giving yourself something to be ambitious about.

You demonstrate that you have hope through the work that you are willing to commit to your goals. You cannot expect something, and then not be ready for that thing to show up. If you believe that you want something to come to pass, you must work for it. It is in the work that things get accomplished. A dream without a plan is just a wish. A wish is something you make to stars, not a wise plan to live your life by.

If you are getting tired in doing what needs to be done for you to excel and accomplish your dream, consider the fact that, you are closer to your dream than you even realize. Do not give up. But also give yourself time to rest and reevaluate. Growth at this stage in your life is more nuanced and may require a different level of focus.

Expectations are great to have, but are even better when they are working in your favor. Burnout and fatigue can happen to anyone, consider it a worthy opponent and not an obstacle. You do not have to go through life tripping over yourself. Align yourself with your goals and dreams by having big ones, and committing to them.  

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I went Keto for 31 days – Here’s how it Went

At the beginning of August, I decided to go keto for the whole month. The Ketogenic diet is a high fat low carbohydrates diet where you get the majority of your calories for a day from foods high in fat.

The science behind this diet is that by reducing carbohydrates and increasing fat, your body will start to burn fat for energy as opposed to the sugars from carbs. When this happens, your body goes into what is called ketosis.

I had been considering going keto for a little over a year but was unsure if whether or not it was right for me. When I decided to try it, I honestly thought that now was as good of a time as any, and I thought that I could not be the only one with questions about this, so why not.  

Going into the diet I was already at an advantage, or disadvantage depending on how you look at it. I am a pescatarian, so I already had a high fat, high quality protein diet going into this challenge. This is a good thing because what some people who do keto do is, they will have a high fat low carbs diet but the fat may not be the most healthy; Or they eat a lot more processed foods over fresh foods. This can be referred to as “dirty Keto”.

What I Ate

The downside to me being a pescatarian while on keto is that my food options are limited; more so than if I was not. Now you could look at that as an advantage as well however, there were plenty of days when I just had a plate of 3-4 pieces of fish for dinner because, I would hit my carbohydrate count for the day by lunch. This was not the worst thing ever honestly; I personally just would have liked a little more variety.

Aside from a semi-limited choice of food options I really enjoyed this diet. The transition was all but seamless. The one issue that I did have was that I missed pasta, rice, and some fried foods. And do not even get me started on bread.

It was tough going out to eat or to social gatherings. I also had large snack cravings. That is where I got in a lot of macros for the day.  Almonds and blueberries were my best friend.

One thing I will say is, if you want to really get value out the ketogenic diet, definitely do your macros. For the first week into this diet I did not do my macronutrients and it was not fun.

The key is, that even though you are cutting back on your carbohydrates, you still want to be able to make sure that you are taking in enough calories from your fats and proteins. If I am being honest that is not something that I first considered when I started this journey.

What happened to my Body?

The most immediate thing I noticed from a physiological perspective was that I immediately had more energy. It eventually tapered off in terms of volume, but from a quality standpoint, I never felt better.

I was lighter on my feet, feeling more buoyant overall, and fired up to conquer each day. I also found that I was a lot more focused when it came to working and getting things done.

The next big change that I noticed was in my physique. I did not get a chance to take down my weight and measurements before starting however, my body is definitely more defined.

Since going keto, not only have I gotten stronger, but my level of athleticism has increased all around. One of the things that inspired me to even go keto was that I wanted to lose some of my stubborn belly fat.

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Even with limited access to a gym, I coupled my healthy eating habits with dynamic stretching, and calisthenics. One month later and I definitely notice a difference.

As of this post, my body is still in ketosis however, I do not know for how much longer. It is my intentions to continue in this way of life but I do not think that I am a keto warrior.

I am unsure on how sustainable this diet is. Despite some bumps in the road it has been smooth sailing, but I still have a way to go if I want to turn this into a lifestyle. That being said, I value the low carb aspect of keto; as well as my body burning fat for energy. I have definitely seen significant benefits from it.

I would encourage you to try it if you are curious. The good thing is, there is no major diet change aside from cutting out popular carbs, if you already live a relatively healthy lifestyle. You will also be more energized, and it will definitely help you shed off some pounds.

There are some drawbacks associated with this diet as well, but nothing you would not be able to mitigate. Being a pescatarian, I found this challenge to be a worthy opponent, and I had to step up to the plate if I wanted to make it work. It is real easy to slip up especially if you are not use to a certain lifestyle.

I will keep you posted with my progress especially because, the gyms are opening back up in my area. Let me know what you think about this type of content and whether you enjoyed it.

Also, let me know if you have any questions, suggestions, or critiques in the comment section below!

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How to Deal with Doubt

Do you struggle with doubt? Doubt is when you have an uncertainty about something. It is when what you thought you were sure about does not seem so sure. Doubt is an attack on your convictions. A renegade thought that is out of alignment with what you believe.

One of the most insidious characteristics of doubt is that it can be rooted in reality. What do you do when the world around you causes you to doubt? Maybe you have a goal that you want to achieve and you are doing everything you can to accomplish that goal, but nothing seems to be working. That is doubt.

Maybe you were asked to do something because of a certain skill set you possess. But as it gets closer to you executing on that task you begin to question whether you could perform at your best. That is doubt. Or maybe even, you gave up on a dream because what you wanted and what life was giving you, were completely different and totally out of alignment. That is doubt.

Doubt wants you to give up. Doubt will look for and present evidence contrary to what you believe, solely for the purpose of you giving up on that belief. Doubt hits you where it hurts, your identity. If you lose confidence in who you are you lose confidence in what you can do. And if you lose confidence in what you can do, you will not do anything new, inspiring, or pioneering.

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How to Manifest more Money into your Life

So let’s be honest, who does not love money? I am willing to bet that almost no hand went up – I mean why else would you be reading this post otherwise?

Everyone values having money in their life. It is a necessary resource. We need it to be contributors to civil society, to get ahead in life, and to sustain a certain level of happiness. As a tool nothing trumps money. 

Notice what I said there, “as a tool”. It is important that you understand your relationship with money. The problem that people have when it comes to manifesting more money into their life is that they have a poor money mindset.

What you need to realize is, money operates on its own vibrational frequency.

What I mean is this: for a long time, I use to subconsciously believe that it was wrong to desire having money in my life. Like many people I thought money is the root of all evil, and that as a good person I should not want anything that could turn me evil.

In addition to that, I perpetuated scarcity in my life by saying and doing things that were counter intuitive to living abundantly. I was out of alignment with money and that reflected in my bank account. The Law of Vibration states that everything is moving at its own vibrational frequency.

Because everything is made up of molecules, everything is in constant motion. Even solid objects are constantly moving; they are just vibrating at a higher frequency. As this relates to you and money, as a human you are like a cell phone tower sending and receiving various signals out into the world.

Money by itself is just paper. Money does not add value to itself, because by itself it has no value. You add value to money, by the way in which you think about it and use it. The bible says that where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.

The clog in the pipeline when it comes to manifesting more money into your life is if you see money for what it is rather than for what it can do. All money is, is a reflection of you.

Bad people will spend money in a “bad way”, good people will spend money in a “good way”. Money does not change you; it amplifies you.

How to Manifest more Money into your Life

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To manifest more money in your life you have to get on its vibrational frequency. This can be done by having an abundant mindset. Living from a place of abundance says that I have everything that I need.

If you lack nothing, then you have a capacity for more. Your thought life impacts your real life, and if you are constantly concerned about not having enough, you will never have enough.

You also must become a good money manager. How do you treat your money, do you care about it? Literally this one boils all the way down to whether you crumble your money or keep it straightened out and neat in your wallet. You have to give money the respect that its due.

Once you start living abundantly and treating your money properly the next thing for you to do is start attracting it into your life. Are you ready to receive money? Have you made room for it?

Money likes to travel as a pack. When it comes to you it comes in vast quantity. From a perspective of practicality, when is the last time you ever received a check or payment for a single dollar? It is not common.

How do you talk about money?  Here is a little hack, if you are speaking negatively over your money, then you are speaking negatively over yourself. Do not consider money as something disjointed from you. If it was not for you, then you would not have any of it. Start speaking and thinking positively about your money.

This will put you on the same vibrational frequency as money which will cause you to start attracting more of it into your life. The secret ingredient to all of this is a genuine desire to want to have more money in your life.

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If what you are saying, and thinking is out of alignment with what you believe then you will actually be working against the law of attraction.

You are a spiritual being having a physical experience. You project out into the world what you want to come to you – You vibrate at your own vibrational frequency. As this relates to money, you must believe that it is your right to be rich.

Financial freedom must be an innate part of who you are and not just a box to check on your proverbial to-do list. You must develop a money mindset and belief system that is authentic to what you want from the money that comes into your life.

Is your money in your life just to keep you living above poverty, or are you generous with your money, wise with how you use it, and intentional about being financially successful?

This is what other people will not tell you when it comes to money: it is about having a state change. Is your mind, body, and spirit in alignment with having more money in your life?

If they are great, you are on money’s vibrational frequency. If not, then you have some work to do if you want to start attracting more money in your life.

If you are ready to start manifesting your dream life but are unsure on how to start, check out my free Life Essentials course. In this course I give you the tools necessary to start creating a life for yourself in alignment with who you really are and how you want to live.

It is of my prerogative to add immense value into your life and that includes in your finances. If you can work with yourself instead of against yourself in every area of your life that matters, you can become unstoppable. Success is a way of life not a one-off experience.

If you want to start manifesting more money into your life, consider the role money plays in your life. Change your mind body and spirit to be in alignment with having more money. Live from a place of abundance and not scarcity.

Affirm your relationship with money and give it the respect that it is due. Remember not to idolize money. Money itself is just paper. What you should value is all the good you can do with it. It is about the usefulness of the resource, and not the resource itself.

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Three Detoxes you Should Start doing Today

I love a good cleanse and detox. When you talk about healthy living, there is nothing healthier than cleaning out and strengthening your system. Here are my three simple and easy detoxes that will provide added benefit to your health and well being:

1. Lemon Water Detox

This is probably the simplest one on the list! Lemon water detoxes are great because in addition to being easy to make, it has a multitude of health benefits. It is a great source for vitamin C, promotes weight loss, helps with digestion, and improves skin and oral health.

I typically do this detox at least two to three times a week. To make it, all you need is a fresh lemon and water. I typically use a whole lemon, but it is perfectly acceptable to use a half of a lemon as well. Add the fresh juice from the lemon into eight ounces of either warm or cold water and drink up.

I like to do this detox in the morning. I will have my lemon water detox first thing in the morning, and that is it. From there I abstain from food specifically carbs and fats until 12pm. I will allow myself fresh fruit specifically blueberries or strawberries after I finish the detox but no substantial food until after 12.

I do this because I want to fully reap the rewards of the detox, and if I were to eat while drinking it, I would diminish some of its health properties. So for me, I prefer doing this one on an empty stomach. When its time for me to eat, I usually ease into my day with eggs or yogurt, something that can easily be digested to get myself going.

If you want to give this detox a health boost, you can also add ginger or turmeric to it. Ginger is great for muscle health including your heart, your mental health, your reproductive system, and can help prevent cancer. Turmeric helps with anti-inflammation, increased brain functionality, combating aging, and reducing levels of depression.

After this detox I am lighter on my feet, I feel purified if you will, and am ready to face my day head on.

2. Nutrilite Twist Tubes 2GO

Okay now I know this is not necessarily a traditional “Detox” however, I think this product is amazing and since I have started using it, it has done wonders for my health. The Nutrilite Twist Tubes 2GO are jam packed with health benefits. They help with immune health, joint health, and antioxidant health.

They are made with all-natural ingredients and full of vitamins like vitamin A, C, B1, B2 and B6. They also have Glucosamine, which is great for mobility and flexibility. These are more of an afternoon staple for myself; and I typically have them around two to three days a week as well.

Because I only drink water for the most part, it is nice every now and again to change things up, and it is great to have these as an option. Typically, after having one I am revitalized, my energy will have comeback, and I get a second wind for the rest of my day. They are also extremely easy to use as well: just twist and drip, and you are all set.

3. The Apple Cider Vinegar Detox

This detox to me is the mother of all detoxes. It is no secret that apple cider vinegar has a multitude of health benefits including increased potassium intake, weight control, promoting pH balance, the removal of toxins from the body, and healthy skin.

Apple cider vinegar is known for being a common at home remedy and using it as a detox can take it to another level. This detox simply calls for two tablespoons of apple cider vinegar, preferably unfiltered, eight ounces of warm or cold water, a teaspoon of ground cinnamon and a teaspoon of either honey, or a healthy sweetener of your choice.

Cinnamon has a plethora of health benefits as well. It is loaded with antioxidants, helps with heart disease, lowers blood sugar levels, promotes mental health, and protects against cancer. Your choice of sweetener is to add a little flavor to this concoction, which can be a little abrasive because of the vinegar.

You can also swap out the cinnamon for cayenne, and or add lemon. Like I said, to me, this is the detox of all detox, this drink literally has medicinal properties. As such, I do not do this detox too frequently. On average I will do this one once a week to once every two weeks. If you feel so inclined this detox can be done daily, I have done it daily before as well.

Detoxes are great for cleaning out your body, absorbing nutrients and promoting your overall health. I challenge you to commit to detoxing for a week straight and see how it impacts your health. It does not have to be any of the ones I mentioned in this post, there are several others out there, but these are the ones I like, and have found to be most effective for me.

I encourage you to commit a full week of detox so that you can develop the habit first. Then you could taper off to a few times a week. Either way I want you to live a happy and fulfilled life, and that means doing what you can to take care of your physical health. I want you to be wealthy, and health is wealth. Doing a detox regularly will give the health and energy boost you need to be the best you possible every day.

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Why it is important to be resilient

Resilience is my superpower. It is the one thing that when all else fails that I can fall back on. Its like if you have ever done a trust fall; you fall back and there someone is to catch you. That someone for me is resilience.

Being resilient means being elastic. Its toughness. I bend but I do not break. My grandmother use to say: “Take a licking and keep on ticking”. Its emotional strength, conviction. Its grit. It is a decided belief that you cannot and will not fail.

You need to be resilient because one of the inevitabilities of life is coming up against opposition. You will have challenges. As long as you are alive something somewhere that is unfavorable will rear its ugly head. What are you going to do when your problems come for you?

It is important that I talk about this because while I focus on being healthy and having the right mindset primarily, life can sometimes be unforgiving. What do you do when things are not going in your direction? Despite your best efforts it seems as if God is conspiring against you.  

Welcome to the story of my life.

One of my biggest pitfalls is that I am incredibly competitive. This is not really a problem for me as much as it can be an issue for those I am around; however, having a competitive mindset is how I have been able to get where I am in life today. I have had no other option but to be resilient.

I will be the first to tell you that I was not dealt the best hand in life. A lot of people are not; but the difference is, I refused to fold. Failure is not a permanent condition; and I refused to give away my labeling power.

The bible says that the first job God gave Adam was to name all the animals. You have the power to dictate to/label things in your life. Who do you call you? What do you label yourself as? I have never found it comforting identifying as a failure.

Resilience is having passion and perseverance. I am passionate about success and am willing to persevere for it. Typically, people have passion, but they do not have the perseverance. Passion is what gets you started, but perseverance is what keeps you going.

You must learn to be able to endure. This comes from having resolve. Anyone who does not stand for anything will fall for everything. Where is your proverbial line in the sand? What is the thing that you are unwilling to capitulate on?

In an anime called Naruto they call it their ‘ninja way’. It is the reason why they do what they do. Who you are is more important than what you do however; what you do should be informed by who you are.  

Does who you are dictate to what you are doing? Resilient people label their circumstances – not allowing themselves to be labeled by them. This is called having a growth mindset. I may have failed at something, but I myself am not a failure.

Do you believe that about yourself? What do you do in the face of opposition? How can you become more resilient?

The truth is, these are things that we have to develop as individuals. What has worked for me may not work for you; The verdict is till out on a uniform way to build up resolve. One thing I will say is this, you must at the very least, hold yourself in high regard.

Are you accountable, and do you have follow through power? My credo is that I am a man of my word. I say what I mean and mean what I say. That is what drives me to persevere. One sure way to build resilience in yourself is to commit to yourself.

You are a spiritual being having a physical experience meaning, you are not tethered to your reality. What you see is not all that is. That is why the most important person that can speak life into your situation is you. Only you can make you better.

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