How to Create the Life that you Want

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Are you tired? Has life had the last laugh at every pivotal point? Are you disgruntled at your job, in your relationships, with the state of the world? Now more than ever the opportunity to be the person you have always wanted to be is manifesting all around you.

The thing keeping you from where you want to be is mindset. Here is a simple trick on how to change your life and create your ideal reality:

Change your mind, Change your life.

Yup. That’s it. No long-elaborated bullet points or top 5 hacks. Simply, change your mind, change your life.

Two people to enlighten me on this concept were Jay Z and Kanye West. During the Covid-19 pandemic I got very into mentorship. At that time, these two black male successful billionaires told stories through their music and through their character that encouraged me to believe in a compelling future.

A friend of mine also taught me the power of mental fortitude and determination. I took the confidence Jay and Ye imbued me with, and the optimism that my friend had; and I applied it to my own measure of faith. With help and guidance from other people i considered “mentors” at the time I realized that life is what you make of it, literally.


This is where the concept of manifestation entered my life. During and since the pandemic I have had the opportunity to engage in “thought therapy,” and I have put myself in alignment with the life that I want.

What does that mean you ask?

It means that I learned how to stop fighting against life, and against myself. I have become a co-creator of my life and not just someone along for the ride.

To do this for yourself you have to start with your mindset. Are your thoughts in alignment with your situation or your desires?

Our desires are unrelenting. The word “des-ire” means “Of the Father.” Your desires come from divine inspiration. It would not have been put in you if it were not meant to be fulfilled through you.

When you know what you want-you know what you want. Our circumstances, however, can be on a constant swivel. The strength of your mindset is in how tenaciously it allows you to cling onto your desires, and not to your circumstance.

The Law of Attraction

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The Law of Attraction is described as:

The ability to attract into our lives whatever we are focusing on.

It is the idea that we are what we think.

Many people myself included have applied the law of attraction before, but just not in a way that may have yielded ideal results. The Bible says that life and death is in the power of the tongue. I used to speak very negatively over myself, friends and family, romantic relationships, my career path, and more.

What you need to realize is, what gets repeated gets remembered, and what gets remembered gets done. There was no fruit in those areas of my life because I kept telling myself subconsciously that I was not worthy of my desires.

Effective application of the law of attraction looks like shifting your subconscious and allowing your expectations to create your reality.

In other words, once I shifted my focus from my circumstance to my desires, I put myself in the path of what I really want.

The Law of Vibration

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Everything has its own vibrational frequency. Everything around us at a molecular level is in constant motion. Even stationary objects are at constant motion, they just vibrate at higher frequencies creating their perception of density.

Since everything vibrates, including humans, we are essentially frequency conductors. We attract to us whatever is on the same frequency as us.

Have you ever wanted something so bad, and one day the right opportunity came along seemingly out of no where? What you were doing was raising your vibrations to be in alignment with that thing you wanted.

Statistically, 42% of people are more likely to complete their goals when they write them down. This is a pragmatic practice of manifestation. When you get on the same vibrational frequency of what you want, you put yourself in a position for it to actually manifest.

An Attractive Mindset

Our biggest obstacle is our mind, and our Achilles heel is our confirmation bias. If you can learn to think better, you will become better.

The challenge with thinking better is it requires you to change how you think about what you think.

That thing that you think about when you are not thinking must change; because that is what determines the trajectory of your life.

Our subconscious drives us, and our confirmation bias is the GPS. As humans we are always looking for things to affirm what we already believe.

The simplest example of this is, if you have ever wanted a certain type of car before. All of the sudden you start seeing that car all around your neighborhood. This happens because your mind looks for things in and around your life that affirms what you believe.

In the same way, your confirmation bias can allow negative thoughts to perpetuate in your mind. Every day we shape our reality because we naturally gravitate towards-attract to ourselves what we already believe.    

Can you Believe Better?

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The real question is, can you believe better?

The answer is yes, but it takes effort. The draw back to believing in something is that there will always be opposition. What you choose to focus on should be set with clear intentions. You need to know what you want as if it is already yours.

If you can be resolute in what you believe the opposition does not matter, because you are focused; and that thing that you are focused on is being affirmed in your life every single day.

Your circumstance may tell you that you cannot have what you want. But what you believe must be truer than what you see or hear. You can’t allow the noise of the world to drown out your desires.

Updated April 5, 2023

Originally published May 5th 2020

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