What you go through matters. Exposure has value. You are more experienced than you think. Experience goes beyond a resume, and it goes beyond how many times you have been around the sun. You must be able to parlay what you go through to your advantage. When you think about it, there is not too much else that matters in life beyond the actualization of our perspicacity.
Out of the womb we are learning. Learning how to walk, how to live, how to engage with our environment. Those skills aid us in socialization and being able to connect with other humans. From there, while we are in school, we are learning anywhere from 12-14+ years on average of knowledge. Then, even that gets applied when you decide to go to college or trade school, and or into the work force. Once in adulthood everything we do is a culmination of what we gathered on the way to where we are.
This matters because if you do not place value on what you have been exposed to, no one will.
This problem you may be having in relation to utilizing your experience is a lack of confidence. Are you confident in what you have gone through? Sometimes people tend to not lean on their experience because they associate experience with time. I believe that is a fallacy however, because the average life span of a person is around 75 years old. In the grand scheme of things that is not that long of a time. A sea turtle can live to be north of 100 years old. There are even somethings in life that are eternal.
Most people gain 20-30 years’ worth of work experience before retiring. All professions existed long before you are I were ever alive. If all we go on is sun revolutions, we miss the point of learning from what we go through. Your experience helps you become the fullness of your realized potential. Who you become is dependent on what you learn from your experiences.
The only reason not to be confident in your experience, is because you did not learn anything. This is the vicious cycle of life. If you do not learn from what you go through you will not see progression in your life. People do not learn because they are either actively opposed to learning (hardheaded) or because they do not value what they are learning.
Just because you do not think something is important does not mean that it is not. And that thing that is not important to you might be the thing holding you back from getting to where you want to go.
Think of it like a test. In school, if you do not pass the test, then you do not pass the class, and you must take it over. In the same way, what you are exposed to in life is a test, and if you do not utilize your learning material to help you pass, you will be taking the test/class again.
As you continue to live you will begin to run into similar/slightly varied situations. Have you ever met a person who was just like another person that you stop associating with? Or maybe you left one place or work thinking that the next one would be better. Only to find out that it was just the same, but with a fresh coat of paint. This is the paradox of life. Nothing is new under the sun, but honestly, nothing is really all that new to you.
If you took a moment to assess your situation, I am sure you would find subjective similarities to a previous period or season in your life.
Our goal in life is not to create or seek new experiences for ourselves; It is to learn from the existing ones we have. A good example of this is work. Depending on your profession, it can be difficult to change careers. If you find yourself in a situation where you do not like what you do for a living, but that is the only thing that seems to be available to you; Then that is life showing you that, that is an area of experience for you.
Sometimes in life you and I just need to learn to go with the flow. That does not mean we control the context of the flow; it just means we are going with it. If the flow is smooth, then its smooth sailing. If the flow is rough, then we may be tossed and turned. This is where your experience comes into play. Your experience is there to help you manage your flow.