It is no secret that the last year of my life has been pretty hectic. It’s been literally a year almost to the day that I find myself on the path that I am currently on. I’ve been a little sporadic with publishing new content on here in part because I was struggling to just keep up in my life. I am not going to sing a sad song in this post, but I just want to make it clear that I have been and am still on a journey.
One of the biggest developments in that journey is my relocation to Texas. Yes, I transitioned out of my home state for greener pastures, and it has been a blessing. Honestly, it has been the peace of mind for me. The Bible tells us that different spiritual entities rule over different regions of the world and I truly believe that I have found where I belong.
I am not saying that where I left was bad, I am obviously still connected there with friends, family, and business ventures however, when you find what is for you, you have to go with what you know; and I knew that Texas was the place for me. It boiled down to peace of mind and fruitfulness. I needed to expand my horizons to somewhere I could actually grow. I felt suffocated in Jersey, and after a year of lies and betrayal from people I thought were in my corner I knew it was time for me to strike out on my own.
Other than my move, my focus has been on keeping the promises that I have made to myself. I have laid the foundation for an ecosystem of content that is both engaging and informational. I am growing in my detachment from things that do not matter and cultivating qualities in my life that transcend where I find myself as of the writing of this post.
One of the things that I have been dealing with on a rather interesting level is the concept of forgiveness. I have been working through this workbook on forgiving things that you cannot forget, and it has been changing my life in real time. Pobodies nerfect and I definitely fall in that category as it relates to some of the memories that haunt me. My life has not been all peaches and roses, and the part that always sticks in my craw are the things that not only I cannot change, but that I do not know the outcome to either.
It is an ongoing process, but I am learning to let go of what I cannot control and forgive myself specifically of hurt that I may have caused others. I am growing more sensitive in that way. I’m concerned with the condition of my fellow man in a way that I cannot say that I was entirely before. I also feel at the same time however, that I am becoming more masculine, and I love it!
One of the lies of society is how it tries to indoctrinate men in how they should think and act. I find it to be grievous because it is also pervasive. You will have people buying into these various character tropes and then trying to impose a certain type of behavior on the people in their sphere of influence.
It has happened to me several times before, where I would get criticized for not being like this or for not being enough of that; and it just gets to a point where enough becomes enough. We were not created to be clones, but individuals. Not to go too far down this rabbit hole, but I would despise it when (and still do) a person would go out of their way to act and be like someone else.
I understand that imitation is the sincerest form of flattery – I am not talking about that. I am talking about someone trying to recreate themselves in the image of someone else. That has happened to me both directly and indirectly. Most recently, I had a friend of a friend literally refer to himself as me in front of me. And I was like, “but dude, you are you”.
I feel like people are taught to individuate in the wrong way. When you think of being an individual some of the first thoughts to come to your mind probably revolve around being able to stand on your own, being able to survive, being self-made, and so on. And while that is a form of individuality, true individuation is in being your own person in character not just in provision. The job you work, the money you make, the house you live in, none of those matters.
Who is better off for having met you? Who will be at your funeral and why? Life is not about what you do, because ultimately, we all do the same thing: eat, sleep, and work; but rather life is about who you are. That is where your individuality lies, in how you develop your character.
That’s right I am officially a published author. I am planning an official release for this website however it is currently out and available now in the Kindle Book store.
The book is entitled “The Pursuit of Passion: How to Sequence your Life for Success”. I used the pseudo name Tiffany Jerome as the books author for personal reasons, but nonetheless I am super excited about this venture I am taking.
The book is about making success tangible for you. And by that, I mean, realizing the totality of your potential. It covers a lot of what I talk about on this website but in much greater detail.
I consider it a textbook on success, a must read.
You will be hearing more about that and similar ventures soon, and if you do wind up buying a copy let me know! I would love to hear about how it changed your life.
Do you have faith to believe that the next part of your life is going to be better than the last? Because that is what I am believing for. I want to touch and agree with you, let me know what you are believing for in the comments section below or write me directly. I am building a community, a real one.
My motto here is change your mind change your habits change your beliefs change your life. I believe my content helps you do exactly that, because that is what it has been doing for me. I am my own client. Sometimes I will go through the archives of my posts and read one that stands out, and it will speak to me as if I wrote it yesterday.
I do not know if you know, but I also publish articles in a more regal form through my Kenscorner newsletter. Those articles are less self-help and more topical and current events related to show a different side of me, as well as to engage with a different type of audience and reader.
I guess what I am saying is, life is available to you. You do not have to go with the crowd, you do not have to settle where you are, and you do not have to give up on your dreams. Just because someone else counted you out, count yourself in. You do deserve to be where you are, you are better than what you were, and there is still more for you to do. Do not through in the towel yet.
I would love to hear from you, leave a comment in the section below!