I am about to run you up on some game (teach you something new). It is of my desires to help you prosper in every area of your life. The one thing that we cannot avoid as people are other people. No man is an island unto himself.
One of the realities of human interaction is that sometimes people have disagreements. I want to help you to be able to better mitigate those disagreements. But more than that, I want you to be able to come out of those disputes better than you went in.
I out right want you to start winning arguments.
This is essential because when you change your perspective around what an argument actually is, you will see that it is of benefit for you (and the other person(s) involved) to start getting good at them. An argument is a discussion with an underlying misunderstanding.
Sometimes people are just in two different places and it can be a challenge to see eye to eye. This aspect of an argument is actually healthy and beneficial to both parties involved. The purpose of an argument is not to be right, but to get it right.
A good argument is positioned from a perspective of an opportunity to reveal and agree upon new knowledge.
Arguments are tools for learning, not instruments of disaster. However, when you weaponize a misunderstanding in a heated discussion, both sides are bound to get burned and it will not be pretty for either party.
To avoid that, you need to start winning arguments; and here is how: